I have been prone to social anxiety as well, and I know it can be recovered. Begin the conversation. Give a big wide smile, and speak. Rather than asking for their names, or how they were doing begin with, “Where are you from?”. This question has a higher probability of having a precisely detailed answer. Then ask about family, people love talking about their families in India still.
I know it takes Apocalypse to skip a small talk unless the command is in your hand. So spill the beans about little personal things. Like if someone asks you about your profession. Don’t just start giving details about your company, it creates a halo. You could rather say, “I am an Engineer by the morning and a Meme philosopher by the nights.” This would make you relatable to people.
Debates are necessary. It always creates a bigger area to think. But, whenever you are around such debates; over convincing people to actually agree to your opinion, just make your aspect sound more logical. And never force that on anybody. Just make it a better option, with salient proof and moderate voice.
Talk what you want to talk about. And be honest, straight to your opinion. Ask the guy/girl you like, if they would go out with you. At least you won’t be reading their secret gestures for the rest of your lives. This is the only way you could speak yourself out to somebody. Nothing to pretend….
We do a massive thinking out about what happens if the tricks don’t work. What if you actually open up, tell them about your plans, and they just nod? What if you ask out your crush, and they eventually say no? The thing is this embarrassment won’t last forever. It would pass anyway. And whatever happens, at least you would be out of that invisible bubble you created around yourself.
I can’t promise if you would succeed in every stage every time. Sure you’ll fail, Its Life bruh! But I bet, you would be remembered. Remembered by everybody.